Are you too hard on yourself? Do you beat yourself down for your mistakes and errors in judgments? Don’t worry! You are not alone. We all tend to hold onto our shortcomings and conveniently forget our successes and positive qualities.
While we find it easy to love others, it’s much more challenging to appreciate and love ourselves. We allow others to take advantage of us. We tolerate unhealthy relationships. We overeat. We waste our valuable time. We set goals that are far beneath our capabilities, thus creating an unhappy mediocre life for us. You see, we can never outperform our own self-image. If we see ourselves as a 2 the world will not raise our value to a 10. So, if we really want to transform our life we must raise our self-image. And to do that we must give ourselves the love we deserve!
Here are some quick and easy ways to love yourself more and build your self-image:
1. Know that you matter.
Understand that you matter to the world. Your opinions matter. Your work matters. Your mere presence matters. Know that you have already touched numerous lives in a positive way even though you may not be fully aware of your contribution.
2. Be aware that your mistakes don’t define you.
Your mistakes may have influenced your life, but they don’t define your life or you. It doesn’t matter how many mistakes you have made as long as you have learnt your lessons and moved on.
3. Forgive those who have hurt you.
Forgiving doesn’t mean that you have to let them back into your life or give them another chance. It just means that you are not going to spend any more time or mental energy holding onto your anger. Be good to yourself and let it go. You will not only impress yourself with your inner strength but also enjoy the relief that forgiveness brings. Remember! Not forgiving people and holding onto the anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
4. Bask in the compliments that you have received.
The most meaningful compliments are those that ring true in the depths of your soul. It’s exciting when someone else recognizes the best that we have to offer the world.