His silence breaks my heart

There’s a guy who lives near my house whom I really love a lot. We were friends since class 6 and gradually after class 9 it turned into a sweet relationship. There was an intense love between us. We were in a relationship for a year. Now I am in class 10. Three months back I fought with him because he spoke about our relationship to my brother. I didn’t even talk to him. After a few days I messaged and even called him but he didn’t reply. I kept messaging him but he didn’t give any response. His silence just breaks my heart. I can’t get him out of my mind and I am not able to stop crying. When I see him he just ignores me like anything. I cannot guess the reason for this behaviour. But there’s still hope in my heart that one day he will come back to me. What should I do?
Muskaan

Dear Muskaan, what you call “a sweet relationship” and “intense love” between you and that boy seems to have collapsed at the first disagreement between the two of you. Instead of talking respectfully to him, trying to understand his motivation in talking to your brother about your relationship, you fought with him and stopped talking to him. He retaliated in the same way by stopping talking to you or responding to your messages. This situation proves that both of you, at your age, are not yet ready for a true love relationship, which is built on mutual trust and respect. What you have to do now is to learn from your mistakes and become more patient, kind and respectful in dealing with your friend. Whether he will come back to you or not will depend on his maturity in understanding that true love is also built on mutual forgiveness.

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.
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Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.