I can’t forget her

My girlfriend and I were in a relationship for the past one year. She was a new student and was from another town. When I proposed to her she accepted. We loved each other a lot; in fact we stayed quite close to each other. But then she went back to her town due to some family issues. I had her phone number and I often used to call her. She also used to call me, but now for the past few months she has stopped calling. When I tried to find out the reason she said nothing. My friends are saying that she’s forgotten me. I’m really shocked and don’t know what to do. I love her a lot and I can’t forget her.
Kunal (15)

Dear Kunal, at the age of 14 you started a “relationship” with a girl from another town. Things went well for one year till she had to go back to her town. Now one year has passed and she doesn’t show interest in continuing this relationship (for the last few months she has stopped calling you and gave no reasons for it). Now you are 15 and shocked because you “love her a lot and can’t forget her”. At your very young age relationships need a lot of personal contact and frequent talking and sharing. Attractions and emotional feelings predominate. Now she is far away from you and probably got involved in other relationships which keep her busy. There is nothing you can do about it; your friends may be right in saying that she has forgotten you. Faithful and lifelong relationships leading to marriage develop at a more mature age, when two persons build a bond of true love, not just infatuation or friendship. Concentrate on your studies and on your good friends in town.

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD
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Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.