We had casual talks on Facebook

I have a crush on my cousin whom I thought had a crush on me, too. We’ve been having casual and very friendly talks on Facebook now for months. Somehow I came to know that my parents had asked him to act as though he really liked me just to test me! So I gradually stopped talking to him, but we do talk rarely. I really like him and cannot stop thinking about him. Please help me.
Shreya

Dear Shreya, “casual” talks for months on Facebook cannot be a foundation for a real love relationship which requires good personal sharing and life experience. The “crush” you are going through is also called an infatuation, which is an emotional feeling of attraction: “I really like him”, preventing you from concentrating on your studies and family relationships: “I cannot stop thinking about him”. Besides you “came to know that” your “parents had asked him to act as though he really liked me just to test me!” If your parents want to test you it may be because they feel that you do not share with them your problems and experiences. I suggest that you spend more time talking to your parents. The thought that he “had a crush” on you too proved to be untrue and now you talk to him “rarely”. Stop living in a dream and start living good relationships with those who are close to you.

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.
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Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.