My family asked me to choose between them and him

I’m a 15 year old girl in Std X. I was in a relationship with a boy who also studies in the same class but in a different city. We were in a relationship for 5 months. One day my family learned about our relationship and asked me to choose between them and him. I chose my family. But I really don’t want to lose him. I had promised not to contact him or get into a relationship with anyone. But I’m missing him a lot; I still love him. My best friend contacted him and asked him that whether he still loved me and he replied, “Yes, I still love her but she left me.” This made me sadder. We both truly love each other. My best friend is also very sad because of my situation. What should I do?

Dear Haniya, you did well in choosing your family rather than the boy with whom you were in a relationship for only 5 months; on the contrary you have grown up and have been loved by your parents for the last 15 years. Now you are “missing him a lot” and “still love him”. He too still loves you. At the age of 15 the best love both of you can experience is the free and pure love of friendship, not a romantic love leading to a lifelong commitment in marriage. Have patience and in a few years, if your feelings towards each other remain unchanged, you may be free to keep in touch with each other and plan your future.

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD
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Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.