She gets angry over small things
My best friend gets angry very easily over small things. We share most of our secrets with each other but there are some that cannot be shared. If she keeps some secrets from me I don’t feel bad but when I do she gets very angry and doesn’t talk properly to me for many days. When I ask her about some of her secrets then she says that there are some things we cannot share then she gets angry when I do the same thing. What should I do?
Riya (13)
Dear Riya, between you and your “best friend” there seems to exist a communication gap and an ego problem. She gets very angry with you if you keep some secret from her and “doesn’t talk to you properly for many days”. On the contrary you “don’t feel bad” if she does the same with you. She seems to be very possessive about you, wanting to know and control everything. You should share with her your feelings and expectations regarding your friendship, your need for freedom and your displeasure for her bad temper. If she understands your point of view your relationship will improve, if she does not it is better that you put an end to this unpleasant situation.
Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, was associated with The Teenager Today for nearly three decades in the capacity of youth counsellor.