He fell in love with me

I’m 17 and one of my friends loves the same boy as I do. He’s our mutual friend and he knows about our feelings. At first he said we are equal for him but gradually he fell in love with me. We are in a relationship and my friend is really hurt. Have I done the right thing getting committed to him?
Sanjana

Dear Sanjana, love is built on the free decision of two persons to enter into a committed relationship. As that boy is a friend also of your girlfriend, he has to explain to her what has happened and what he feels towards you. You did not rob her boyfriend; it was he, in the first place, who “gradually fell in love” with you. Let him speak frankly to her.

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.
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Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.