You only get one chance to make a first impression. Ever so often we are overly cognizant about what people might think about us, that we begin to mind-read them and make assumptions of what they expect from us. Your friends will see right through you. There really isn’t any other way than to be transparent about who you are, how you think, and what you feel. Always be honest and don’t fake your appearance, status, likes or behaviour with them. They will pick your lies before you even say them.
Give others their best chance
You can’t have a checklist and be certain that any one person will check off all items on it. It seems natural to want to spend time with someone who has the same hobbies and background as yours. And when you see someone different you shut yourself out. It’s true that you may like the guitar and enjoy biking, while your new neighbour spends time reading and doing charity. But you need to give your friendship a chance to blossom with whatever goes into its roots. This neighbourhood acquaintance can become a good friend if only you allow the budding friendship to bloom.