I am never treated like one of them

I am a student of class 10. I keep getting the feeling that I am always being separated or excluded by my friends’ group; not by them but by some other people. I am never treated like one of them. What should I do? Should I live with this or should I not interact with them?
Anindita (15)

Dear Anindita,

From what you have shared, it seems that there are some other people who do not count you as a member of your friends group and do not treat you equally. This makes you feel hurt and a bit isolated and you wonder whether you should continue to interact with those people.

If your friends treat you as part of the group, and you feel that you belong to that group, then the other people shouldn’t bother you. Ignore them. Instead, talk to your friends about how you feel. If they are your true friends, they will support you, stand by you and make you feel warm and welcome. If they don’t, then find a new set of friends who do.

While we can and do make adjustments because we love the people in our lives, if something is unpleasant and painful, you don’t have to ‘live with’ the situation. You have the full freedom to move on.

Nasreen Hashambhoy

Nasreen Hashambhoy is a Counsellor, Life Coach and a Facilitator of training programmes for schools and corporates. Through a combination of coaching, counselling and facilitation techniques based on cognitive science and positive psychology, she helps clients achieve their true potential. She is the author of the series Values In Action published by Better Yourself Books.
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Nasreen Hashambhoy is a Counsellor, Life Coach and a Facilitator of training programmes for schools and corporates. Through a combination of coaching, counselling and facilitation techniques based on cognitive science and positive psychology, she helps clients achieve their true potential. She is the author of the series Values In Action published by Better Yourself Books.