I follow what he tells me to do

I’m a 20-year-old girl doing B.Tech. For the past one year I have been in a relationship with Saksham but it feels like I am trapped. I can’t let go of him for any reason. Every time he says he wants to break up I start crying. Before him there was Arun whom I loved very much, but I broke up with him because of Saksham. But I think I still have feelings for him. I can’t get over him no matter how much I try. Saksham totally disrespects me but I can’t do anything. I just follow what he tells me to do. He uses bad language with me and slaps me, but I just can’t let go. Due to this my academics are getting affected. Please help.
Shobika

Dear Shobika, though you are an intelligent person doing B.Tech., you are affected by a deep sense of insecurity in life and have surrendered yourself completely to the will of a man who does not respect you, insults you and physically abuses you. You have lost your self-respect and dignity and are unable to decide by yourself what to do in life. You are like a slave in the hands of your master. In your letter you do not give any information about your family background and upbringing; the origin of your problems may be there. Remember that you are a child of God, created by Him to be free and responsible for your life. Take your life into your hands and seek advice from a good family member whom you trust or a professional counsellor.

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.
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Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.