I hate her

This year a new girl joined our class. My friends are always with her. She is not a nice girl and she plays politics with me. I hate her; because of her my friends left me alone. I don’t know what it is about her but everybody likes her. How can I get my friends back and tell them that she isn’t good?
Rashmi (14)

Dear Rashmi, it seems you are very jealous of that girl because your “friends are always with her” and “because of her my friends left me alone”. Jealousy is a bad emotional feeling that can upset your judgement: “she is not a nice girl”, “she isn’t good”, “I hate her”. Rather than giving in to negative feelings, ask yourself the reason why everybody likes her. She may have some positive qualities that make her attractive. I suggest you spend some time with her and talk to her with an open mind; you may discover that she is not what you think and she can be a nice friend. Stop hating and start loving.

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.
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Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.