I have feelings for her

I met a girl a few months back, it was just very normal at that time, but I think I have developed feelings for her. The thing is I don’t know if she feels the same for me. Sometimes it looks like she’s interested, sometimes it doesn’t. I thought of telling her, but I don’t want to ruin the friendship we already have. I understand that yes/no is her choice, but a ‘no’ might mean ruining our friendship. It’s like a leap of faith really. What should I do?
P.S. I scored well in my Std. XII exams and am getting a good college. I’m focused there so, a relationship at this point won’t affect that in any negative way.
Rishabh (18)

Dear Rishabh, do not be in a hurry in your relationship with that girl. Give yourself and her time to grow freely together as good and close friends. The more you will share together your life, problems and expectations the deeper your relationship will grow. Slowly you will discover what you have in common, what you want in life and how you are planning your future. The moment will come when both of you will understand each other in a deeper way and develop deeper feelings for each other. This could result in building a deeper friendship or in developing a closer and warmer feeling between you which could lead to planning a life together.

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.
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Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.