I’ll not be able to live without him

I’m in Class 8. My problem is that I love a boy from another school but I feel he will not love me because the girl whom he truly loved hurt him a lot. He is a very good boy and as friends we share everything. Now I feel like I’ll not be able to live without him. But I’m frightened of my mom. Please help me to come out of these feelings and concentrate on my studies.
Bernard

Dear Bernard,

You are struggling with your feelings for this boy who has had his heart broken by someone else. You are also afraid of your mother’s reaction to your feelings. At your age, it’s normal to feel very intensely about someone special. These feelings may either pass, or may get deeper as time goes by. Right now, a good thing would be to make friends in your own class and school.

You are soon going to be in Class 9, which is the first step to your future and your career. So, set a timetable, find a study-buddy and set some study goals (such as ‘I will clear my doubts after each chapter’, ‘I will increase my marks by 10 in the next exam’).

Also, ensure that you exercise daily or participate in sports, and in other school activities. Develop any hobby or special talent you may have. Make sure you get into a routine, which balances study and relaxation. If you do this, I’m quite sure you — and your mum — will be quite happy!

Nasreen Hashambhoy

Nasreen Hashambhoy is a Counsellor, Life Coach and a Facilitator of training programmes for schools and corporates. Through a combination of coaching, counselling and facilitation techniques based on cognitive science and positive psychology, she helps clients achieve their true potential. She is the author of the series Values In Action published by Better Yourself Books.
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Nasreen Hashambhoy is a Counsellor, Life Coach and a Facilitator of training programmes for schools and corporates. Through a combination of coaching, counselling and facilitation techniques based on cognitive science and positive psychology, she helps clients achieve their true potential. She is the author of the series Values In Action published by Better Yourself Books.