Is it infatuation or love?

I joined a dance class this year. There I met a guy who was 3 years older than me and we became really good friends. He started sharing all his secrets with me and used to tell me everything. I started liking him but after a few weeks I learned that he is my cousin brother and I actually love my cousin brother! I don’t know if it is infatuation or love. Whenever he used to tell me that he had a crush on someone I wouldn’t feel bad, in fact, I would feel happy for him. So maybe it could be a love and bond between two cousins? For the past one week I have been unable to attend dance class and I am really missing him. What kind of love is it?
Alia (16)

Dear Alia, you and that boy became “really good friends” because he shared “all his secrets with” you, even his “crush on someone”. Friends are people we can spend time with, talk and share secrets and experiences, play with and have fun. Above all, friends are people we can trust, whom we understand and who understand us and help us in case of need. True friendship is a give and take love relationship. The fact that he is your cousin brother should make you continue growing in your friendship rather than thinking of having fallen into an infatuation.

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.
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Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.