My sister told me it is not my age

I recently broke up with my boyfriend. I like him very much and we had three break-ups and patch-ups before. We never interact in school although he is in my class. I don’t know what to do. Recently, we interacted on Facebook and he asked me if I liked him. I’m very good in my studies and I’m not distracted but I love him very much. I told my sis about it and she said it’s not correct because it’s not my age and I should think about my parents but I can’t stop loving him! Many have proposed to me but I love him. I just can’t stop loving him. Is this the right thing to do?
Rags (14) / Jammu

Dear Rags, your frequent break-ups and patch-ups with your boyfriend prove your confusion and immaturity in handling a personal relationship with a boyfriend. This is common at the age of 14. Your sister is right in telling that you are too young for handling this kind of relationship and should rather give priority to your family and your studies. At 14 it is better to enjoy a free and joyful friendship with many young people of your age rather than to get stuck in a personal and emotional relationship that you can’t handle. Call him just a ‘friend’ (not a “boyfriend”) and enjoy the freedom and fun of the relationship.

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.
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Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.