She does not talk with me

I love someone in my class very much but I cannot tell her. I want to go and talk to her but I cannot do that. She talks to all my friends but she does not talk with me. She also loves me but she cannot tell me. I feel that if I go and talk to her and tell her that I love her very much she will not be my friend any longer. What should I do?
Aman (16)

Dear Aman, that girl does not talk to you because you too are not able to talk to her and tell about your feelings. In your imagination you feel that “she also loves” you “but she cannot tell” you. If you do not have the courage to express your feelings it means you are not yet ready for such relationship. This is common at your age. She is presently your friend and you are afraid that if you tell her about your love she will not be your friend any longer. I suggest you enjoy the friendship with her as it is now and wait for some more time to mature your decisions for the future.

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD
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Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, has a degree in medicine and is a professional counsellor. For the last 30 years he has been providing youth with practical advice to help them tackle urgent and troubling issues.