Who’s the most important person in your life?

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If only there was a ‘Life for Dummies’ handbook with pinpointed instructions for a meaningful life, one that tells you that you are worth it and that it’s okay if things are less than perfect because you nonetheless, are. There are also the realities of life — like school, college, examinations, sports, friendships, family, and career (some day). Hence what the world thinks about you becomes important, too. Yet, nobody can make you feel worthless without your permission. So when you wonder why you’re not good enough, there are some more questions the answers of which might be able to guide you.

Gauging how much you believe in yourself

  • Am I comfortable in my skin?
  • Is this what I should do or something I want to?
  • Do I need to be part of that cool group to be cool?
  • Do they even want me?
  • Does my opinion count at all?
  • Am I worthy of his/ her love?
  • Am I good enough?
  • Will they like me?
  • Will I fit?

Who is the most important person in your life?

You may have heard the following safety instructions given by flight attendants before the plane takes off: “In the event of decreased cabin pressure, oxygen masks will automatically drop down from the overhead panel. Secure the mask on your face firmly, and breathe normally. Please make sure to wear your own mask before helping anyone else.”

We are a society that duly applauds selflessness. We are rightfully taught to value, respect and serve others, and are rather appreciated for it. But how can we do all of this for another when we don’t place a fair value on our own self? Why do we feel we’re not good enough, and then make the world bash us for the same?

Charity begins at home.

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Dr Shefali Batra is a Senior Psychiatrist and CBT Expert, and is the Founder of Mindframes. She posts and conducts regular ‘lives’ on Instagram @drshefalibatra.