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The person stays the same; I change

I am in a relationship at the moment. This is my second relationship. I have realized that when the relationship starts, I am very enthusiastic, but later on with time, the same relationship gets very boring. The person stays the same; I change. I don’t put in the effort. Is this a normal feeling?
I.K. (18)

Say you like to eat ice-cream and I give you the same ice-cream daily for two weeks. What will happen? You will get bored and fed up. Now say I give you the same ice-cream, but one day I add springles, one day I add chocolate sauce, another day I serve it to you with a brownie, and one day I serve it as an ice-cream sundae. Do you think you will get bored that quickly? Any relationship or friendship reaches a point of exhaustion and boredom. How you keep the same alive depends on you and your partner. It is also important to see that the relationship that you are in is a healthy one. Your feelings are normal and many people do experience the same, however, having said that, it is equally important to work upon it.

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Dr Alisha Lalljee is a Psychologist (M.A.), Special Educator (M.Ed) and Psychotherapist. She holds an MBA in clinical research and hospital management. Visit her website www.alishalalljee.com

Dr Alisha Lalljee

Dr Alisha Lalljee is a Psychologist (M.A.), Special Educator (M.Ed) and Psychotherapist. She holds an MBA in clinical research and hospital management. Visit her website www.alishalalljee.com