He hardly pays attention to me
I am a social and outgoing person. I made friends with a guy, but he hardly pays attention to me when he is with his friends. I feel jealous when my other bestie mingles with him so easily. Am I going wrong somewhere?
A.W. (17)
Sometimes the decisions made by a person may not be in tantum with our thoughts. However, only because a particular guy does not give you attention does not mean that you are wrong. If he is a dear friend, I would first suggest you try and speak to him once about how you feel. If even after speaking to him no change is noticed in him, then I would suggest you try and find some new friends. Sometimes we cannot force people to be friends with us. Friendship involves two-way communication and I understand that you may feel jealous seeing him speak to others, but you will understand his side better if you speak to him about this openly.
Dr Alisha Lalljee is a Psychologist (M.A.), Special Educator (M.Ed) and Psychotherapist. She holds an MBA in Clinical Research and Hospital Management.
