Teen Point of View

Healthy and happy relationships between boys and girls

TOPIC OF THE MONTH: Healthy and happy relationships between boys and girls are eroding into harmful, scary and egotistic relationships. According to you, what could be the reasons for this?

These days since we invest a lot of our time on social media, we do not value our partner who is sitting right next to us. We don’t live in the moment because we take our partners for granted. Also, most of the time we are immature to handle the responsibility of a relationship. Even when there are arguments the basic activity of messaging a simple sorry to your partner can be a challenge due to ego coming in the way. In a relationship, there should be no scope for ego, so we should try to keep it aside in order to have a happy and healthy relationship.
Celine Moonjely (17)
St Xavier’s College, Mumbai

The chief reason for this problem is the opinion and taunts of society. Parents of many teenagers are not ready to accept that their child is in a relationship, either in a friendly one or a loving one. This creates a line of opposition between girls and boys and their relationship drops.
Amrita Khaira (12)
St Joseph’s Convent School, Jalandhar

In a country like India, the reasons could be as follows: 1) Parents naturally give more attention to boys than to girls, thus creating a rift right from childhood. 2) Parents normally condition the girl’s mind to be extra cautious about males in views of raised crimes against female gender. 3) Male ego tend to override female emotional quotient, this becoming another reason for the conflict between the two.
Bhavya (12)
St Joseph’s Convent School, Jalandhar

Toxic relationships contaminate self-esteem, happiness, the way you see yourself and the world. Generally, males have a more positive perspective of their own intimacy in relationships than women in emotional expressivity. The reasons can be trust issues (once trust is gone, it’s hard to get back), physical or verbal abuse, privacy, lies, too much aggressive or passive behaviour, ego, self-respect.
Rashmo Mehta (14)
St Joseph’s Convent High School, Jethuli, Patna

Unhealthy relationships pose a threat to an individual’s well-being and I think narcissism is the reason behind it. Narcissism is a mental disorder in which people have a sense of their own importance and deep need of admiration. It includes superiority complex, magnifying self-image, entitlement, boundary violation, false charm, manipulation, irresponsibility, negative emotions, extreme selfishness and contempt towards each other. These factors erode into bad relationships.
Preksha Mohil (17)
St Anselm’s School, Jaipur

Nowadays, social media is a huge platform to meet someone. As they grow a happy relationship online, they like everything about each other. But when they meet in person they don’t feel that same way and want to change each other. But if he/she refuses to do so, it hurts his/her ego. This is the biggest reason.
Shailja Sultaniya (14)
St Joseph’s Convent High School, Jethuli, Patna

In a relationship, two people with vast differences having their own way of thinking cannot always agree on the same thing. It may be that all the love, work and compromise come from the same person. There can be misconceptions and misunderstandings. They become possessive about their partners and start judging them which makes their relationships toxic.
Rashi Mehta (16)
St Joseph’s Convent High School, Jethuli, Patna

The main reason behind this problem is the society’s ideology. Very few perceive the friendship between people of different genders to be normal. Hence, the taunts and insults from others compel the friends to step back. Overthinking and overprotectiveness of parents is an unnecessary pressure. Children have become too careerist. The competitive tension between them creates ego clash. Unawareness of sex education and curiosity make children take some drastic steps.
Sreejita Das (14)
Kendriya Vidyalaya, Pondicherry