Youth Counselling

I am totally friendless

I am 14 years old and I am totally friendless. I used to have a friend circle earlier but now we have drifted apart and they have clearly told me that we can’t be friends again. I tried to resolve the issue but they won’t agree. I am totally alone now except for a friend who’s a guy and I can’t be just with him because people will judge us, including my teachers. Due to all this loneliness I have weird thoughts. I also have moments where I am suddenly scared of things around me. To make matters worse there are constant quarrels in my family. I do not know what to do.
Priyanka Joshi

Dear Priyanka, I do not know the reason for your friends drifting apart from you and not wanting to be friends again. If you have committed some serious mistake in dealing with them, learn from your mistake and do not repeat it again. You are just 14 years old; in future you will have other classmates and a chance to rebuild your circle of friends. Regarding the “guy” who is still your friend, you do not have to spend a lot of time together. From time to time, whenever possible, share with him your present feelings of loneliness. Sharing the burden will make it easier to carry. The real painful problem is the “constant quarrels” in your family about which you feel powerless and depressed. When in life there are problems that we cannot solve, the only option is to turn to God in prayer for help and guidance. Pray for your family, your friends and yourself.

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Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, was associated with The Teenager Today for nearly three decades in the capacity of youth counsellor.

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, was associated with The Teenager Today for nearly three decades in the capacity of youth counsellor.