I have a massive crush on a girl who lives in my colony and I think that she also has a crush on me. I want to propose to her but I cannot because I think she may break her friendship with me. I am stressed out. What should I do?
Aryan / Agra
Dear Aryan, what you call “a massive crush” is also called infatuation. It is a mixture of romantic feelings and sexual attraction that surfaces during adolescence. Infatuation is an exciting experience but can be also troublesome, because it can make people depressed if rejected by the one they feel they are in love with. True love relationships are deeper than infatuation and imply the capacity to forgive and sacrifice; they also imply dedication, respect, fidelity and compassion. The more mature we are, the more we are capable of loving. At this point of your teenage life it is better for you to keep your relationship with that girl in the limit of a good friendship: sharing your experiences, plans for the future, family life, friendship, etc. If she feels comfortable to share her life experience with you, your relationship with her will grow and may lead in the future to a mature decision of sharing your life. Marriage is the final and full expression of true love. An early proposal may break her friendship with you.