Youth Counselling

I like a girl who is one of my best friends

I am bisexual. I like a girl who is one of my best friends and I don’t know how to tell her about my feelings. Although she is straight, she still gives me signals which make my heart flutter. I’ve liked her since the past four months and I think about her all the time. Because of this I am unable to concentrate on my studies. Should I tell her that I like her? Will it ruin our friendship? Will she stop talking to me? Please help me.
N. (19)

I totally respect your feelings. However, I understand that you are sceptical about sharing your feelings with your best friend. It is very normal to have your heart flutter and feel butterflies in your stomach when you have feelings for someone, and I am sure it is a very beautiful feeling. You are also aware that there is a possibility that your friend may not reciprocate the same feelings for you. If you are certain that your friend is straight, she may not reciprocate the same feelings for you. Neither can you or I predict for sure how she would react if you broke the news to her. It is a plunge that you would need to take either way. In case you do share your feelings, it is important for you to first tell her that you respect this friendship the most and would not want it to be affected at any cost.

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Dr Alisha Lalljee is a Psychologist (M.A.), Special Educator (M.Ed) and Psychotherapist. She holds an MBA in Clinical Research and Hospital Management.

Dr Alisha Lalljee

Dr Alisha Lalljee is a Psychologist (M.A.), Special Educator (M.Ed) and Psychotherapist. She holds an MBA in Clinical Research and Hospital Management.