I want to be in a relationship with her
I’m a student of Std. XII and I have been in love with a girl in my class since class XI. I have very strong feelings for her and I always think about her. We are very good friends and know each other to a certain extent. But the main problem is that she already has a boyfriend whom she loves very much and she has told me about him. She is my dream girl and I really want to be in a relationship with her. She knows that I love her but she has never talked about it with me. I am unable to impress her in any way. I want to attract her towards me. What should I do?
Amogh
Dear Amogh, you are in love with a girl in your class, for whom you have “very strong feelings”. The problem is that she told you that she already has a boyfriend whom she loves very much. She knows that you love her but “she has never talked about it with you”. You desperately want to be in a relationship with her but are “unable to impress her in any way”. Love between two persons should be borne in the heart of both of them. In your case, she has only feelings of friendship for you, not of having a relationship with you. In her heart there is already someone else and you should respect her feelings. If you really love her she will be well impressed by your respectful behaviour and may turn to you in case, in the future, her relationship with her boyfriend comes to an end. You cannot force your feelings on others.
Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, was associated with The Teenager Today for nearly three decades in the capacity of youth counsellor.