Youth Counselling

I was bullied by my school friends

I was bullied by my school friends for a few weeks. You once wrote that one must stand up for what they feel is right and raise their voice. I feel happy to say that as you mentioned that we must speak to someone, I spoke to my school counsellor. She listened to me and also asked me the names of the bullies. She called them and explained to them. They have stopped troubling me, but my problem now is that I have lost my confidence. I feel targeted still.
F.R. (13)

I am delighted to read that one of my previous articles has helped you. I am so proud of the fact that you stood up for yourself at such a young age; this is indeed commendable. Kudos to you for that! First you need to appreciate and congratulate yourself for this victory. In life, we will have many such people who try to put us down knowingly or unknowingly. This will first make us feel sad and disheartened; if we don’t stand up for ourselves, it will make things worse for us. The fact that you did what you needed to do, you will not feel worse about the situation but the past can often unnerve you. What you need to do now is learn to validate yourself. Make a list of all the things big or small that you have achieved so far, all those things you never felt you could do. This will help you feel validated and accomplished. This will also increase your self-confidence and morale.

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Dr Alisha Lalljee is a Psychologist (M.A.), Special Educator (M.Ed) and Psychotherapist. She holds an MBA in Clinical Research and Hospital Management.

Dr Alisha Lalljee

Dr Alisha Lalljee is a Psychologist (M.A.), Special Educator (M.Ed) and Psychotherapist. She holds an MBA in Clinical Research and Hospital Management.