I am good in studies but these days I can’t concentrate on them. All I can think about is my account on Facebook, my cell phone and boys. I am really worried that I will spoil my academic performance like this. I really can’t talk to my parents about this because they won’t understand me.
Your life seems to be going out of balance. While it is normal to want to connect with online friends and to have crushes at your age, excess time on only one area is like binging on your favourite food — it can make you sick. And you’re absolutely right — there will be consequences not just on academics, but also on the quality of your life if you become addicted. How will you feel if: Your academic results hit rock bottom? You lose your real friends because you chased virtual ones?
Retrain your brain! Take each important area of your life — your studies, a hobby, exercise, time with family and friends, time for social media and so on. Draw a ‘thali’ with ‘bowls’ on a paper. In each bowl place one area and how much time you will spend on it daily/during the week. Put it up on the wall and challenge yourself to stick to it. Give your cell phone to your mum at that time so you are not tempted to use it!
Nasreen Hashambhoy is a Counsellor, Life Coach and a Facilitator of training programmes for schools and corporates. Through a combination of coaching, counselling and facilitation techniques based on cognitive science and positive psychology, she helps clients achieve their true potential. She is the author of the series Values In Action published by Better Yourself Books.