I’m tired of proving myself and getting negative results
I always try my best to do things, but it turns out very bad each time, e.g., losing a lot of money which resulted in my parents scolding me. They blame me for ruining things, being bad-natured, having plenty of attitude, and they discourage me a lot. I try to do things in a better way but nothing works in my favour. I’m tired of proving myself and getting negative results each time. I am an ambivert and quite mature about how to handle things, but my parents don’t think this way. This has affected my thinking and confidence level severely. I have talked with them many times, but it doesn’t help. Please help me.
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I can understand how overwhelming this feeling must have been. At a given point in life each one of us has at some point felt overwhelmed by the events happening around us, which thus have caused chaos in our life. However, if this continues to persist overtime it is important for us to fix this situation. To be able to fix the situation we first need to accept that there is a situation that needs to be fixed. This can start by you first making a list of all the things that you feel you faulter at. After the list has been made, try and focus on each one of them. For example, if there is a loss of a lot of money as you have mentioned, what do you think is the reason for that. Is it out of being less precautious or overspending? Once you are able to rationalize this it is going to be a lot easier for you to deal with the situation at hand. Not being up to the mark according to your own standards may lead to you having a low self-esteem. Once you are more sorted with your thoughts, I am sure you will feel a lot better and your parents shall see visible results too.
Dr Alisha Lalljee is a Psychologist (M.A.), Special Educator (M.Ed) and Psychotherapist. She holds an MBA in Clinical Research and Hospital Management.
