Motivation: How much can you push yourself?

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Teenagers of the past

Did you know that several decades ago, teenagers were some of the most hardworking members of society? Long before shopping malls, computer games and high schools, teenagers were expected to work with adults to make a difference to society. They worked in trade, did farming, cooked, served, cleaned; and learned essential life skills well in time to grow into mature and experienced adults. The job had to be done. And they did it.

Do you think teenagers are any different today?

The impression of today’s teenager is more like a kid who…
… sleeps in late.
… prefers junk food.
… plays computer games.
… is hooked to social media.
… is easy going and lazy.
… surfs the internet all day.
… hangs out with friends.
… doesn’t study enough.
… is unsure about the future.

Does any of the above hold true for you?

Teenage is a period of great transitions. It’s the time to perk up on your looks, tone your body, improvise your wardrobe, build friendships, strengthen relationships, expand your social circle, excel in education, sport, career, hobbies, and build the plan for your life in totality. How easy is it to achieve all of this? Seems like too much to do and too little time? Do you ever feel stranded, directionless and out of control of your own life?

Find purpose in what you do

If you don’t believe that it’s going to benefit you, there’s very little chance that you will do it. If you want to feel important and responsible, you’ll have to find meaning in everything. Whether it’s helping out at home or exercising; completing homework or studying for your examination; know that you have to do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do. School work and study gets you to a good college and university to eventually get your dream job one day. And that helps you get your fantasy car and the latest gadget and other pieces of technology you admire. If you want it, you’ll have to work for it.

Say what you want — respectfully!

You are old enough to make decisions, provided you make them conscientiously. If you don’t agree with parents, teachers, friends or relatives, speak up and let them know how you feel. If you have your own agendas, voice them, have open discussions and reach mutually agreeable solutions.

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Dr Shefali Batra
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Dr Shefali Batra is a Senior Psychiatrist and CBT Expert, and is the Founder of Mindframes. She posts and conducts regular ‘lives’ on Instagram @drshefalibatra.