Now he is her boyfriend

Last year, I told a boy that I liked him, and he said he liked me too. We were together for one month only. Early this year he met another girl and now he is her boyfriend! We both talk to each other; but I can’t forget him. Should I try to get him back?
Leanne (15)

Dear Leanne,

It seems you are feeling regretful and alone now that this boy has moved on to find another girlfriend. While, ‘Should I try to get him back?’ is a question only you can answer, it helps to remember that relationships are not things that you can simply possess. They take time to build and to nurture.

It would help you to reflect on your situation: The two of you were together for just a month… what made you break up then? What stopped you from ‘getting him back’ before this? What makes you want him back now? Is it because he has another girlfriend?

If you really wanted the relationship, you would have tried to revive it much earlier, especially since the two of you talk, but you didn’t. It is best to look forward to the future, enjoy your friendships — with him and with others. In time, you will meet someone who is truly special to you and will be by your side for longer than just a month!

Nasreen Hashambhoy
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Nasreen Hashambhoy

Nasreen Hashambhoy is a Counsellor, Life Coach and a Facilitator of training programmes for schools and corporates. Through a combination of coaching, counselling and facilitation techniques based on cognitive science and positive psychology, she helps clients achieve their true potential. She is the author of the series Values In Action published by Better Yourself Books.