I am in Class 10. Last year, I proposed to a girl. She accepted my proposal but after six months, she broke up with me. I was heartbroken and depressed for a month after that. But I still have feelings for her. Now she is talking with me and her friends told me that she wants to propose to me. What should I do? Accept or reject her?
Sahil (15) / Agra
It must have been quite a difficult time for you when the girl that you liked broke up with you. You say that you still have feelings for her, but you are a bit confused about whether to accept or reject her. Sounds like you feel happy that she wants to propose to you but you are also worried that if she has changed her mind once and broken up with you, she may do so again.
Sometimes, when one is confused, a good thing to do is to take it easy and focus on something else. Right now you’re in Class 10 and throwing yourself into board exam work will give you a sense of purpose. You could continue to be friends with this girl, and it will be clear as to whether she is serious about you, or is going to change her mind all over again.
Nasreen Hashambhoy is a Counsellor, Life Coach and a Facilitator of training programmes for schools and corporates. Through a combination of coaching, counselling and facilitation techniques based on cognitive science and positive psychology, she helps clients achieve their true potential. She is the author of the series Values In Action published by Better Yourself Books.