Youth Counselling

She takes silly matters seriously

Last year, I didn’t tell my best friend about my friendship with a friend with whom I had broken my friendship before. I didn’t tell her because of some reason, but I couldn’t help telling her in the end. But that made her cry a lot and has affected our friendship. The friend about whom I didn’t tell her turned out to be a total jerk. We are no more friends now. My best friend says she has forgiven me, but I can’t forgive myself. I can’t face her like I used to. Moreover, she isn’t what she was before. She has become girly, unlike before, which makes it even harder for me to understand her. Please help! (P.S. my best friend takes little matters very seriously).
Niha

Dear Niha, there seems to be little understanding between you and your best friend. She is very possessive as if you belong to her and cannot do anything without telling her. Friendship is a free relationship built on trust and mutual respect, in which people are free to share their experiences and problems if and when necessary. Your friend now “isn’t what she was before” and it has become “harder to understand her”. Your friendship is going in the wrong direction; instead of bringing joy and peace it is bringing misunderstanding and sadness. Correct your approach or you will go on suffering.

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Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, was associated with The Teenager Today for nearly three decades in the capacity of youth counsellor.

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD

Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, was associated with The Teenager Today for nearly three decades in the capacity of youth counsellor.