I’m 13 years old. I have a friend who earlier was my best friend. She used to share all her things with me. We always used to be with each other. Even in class we used to sit together. One day our class teacher changed our places and made me sit with a girl who wasn’t in our group. But my friend was made to sit with a girl who was in our group but was and is very rude. My friend and I used to dislike her. But slowly they both became friends and then best friends. Now my friend is always with her. She says that her partner is her best friend. I think that girl has snatched my best friend. Why has my friend done this to me?
Sagarika / Mumbai
Dear Sagarika, at the age of 13 friends come and go, as you are learning how to handle relationships and emotions. People who were thought to be “rude” and not “good friends” may turn out to be good and loving. That is what probably your best friend has learnt by sitting with another girl and sharing with her. Now they have become best friends and you feel jealous about it, thinking that that girl has snatched your best friend. Change your attitude, stop being jealous and try to come close to them and understand what is beautiful in their relationship. Open yourself to relationships with different people without limiting yourself to exclusive “best friends”.