He thinks my love for him is fake
I am a 17-year-old girl and my boyfriend is 21. I am more focused towards my studies and my career and so at times I get so busy with all these that I cannot talk to him or send him any message. I tried to make him understand but he is very adamant and thinks that my love towards him is fake. Moreover, being older than me his level of thinking is a bit higher. Sometimes I feel very uncomfortable while chatting with him. He belongs to a well-to-do family but still he behaves like this. I love him but I love myself, too. I am confused whether I should continue with him or break our relationship? If breaking up is the solution then please suggest a good way of breaking up without creating any more fuss.
Robina / Assam
Dear Robina, the problem is that your boyfriend seems unable to compromise, to find a middle way between your relationship and your personal life. He thinks that you already belong to him and should be in constant contact with him, neglecting your duties as a student. A possessive man can make you a slave after marriage. The fact that “he is very adamant” makes this danger very serious. If, after sharing with him your desire to be allowed to focus on your studies and career, he does not accept it and insists on you focusing on him alone, then it is better for you to choose freedom and break up this relationship. If your parents know about this relationship, they can also talk to him and make him aware of his mistake.
Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, was associated with The Teenager Today for nearly three decades in the capacity of youth counsellor.