We’re worried about our studies
I am in Std IX. I had a crush on a girl of my age and I told her how I felt about her. She told me that she felt the same for me but the problem is that we both are worried about our studies as it’s our boards next year. She is ready to be in a relationship with me but we have decided that if our studies are affected we will be nothing more than friends. I am also not sure if it’s love or infatuation. I like her a lot and I don’t want our relationship to end. What should I do?
A.S. (14) / Lucknow
Dear A.S., I am happy to read that you and the girl on whom you have a crush are worried about your studies and your board exams next year, and therefore don’t want anything (even your relationship) to affect them negatively. This is what students who are 14 years old are expected to do, as your parents are spending money on you and expect good results. Besides, you are confused about the kind of relationship you have with her: “love or infatuation”. In this situation, it is better that both of you decide to be “nothing more than friends”. Friendship is a beautiful kind of love which keeps people free from selfishness and possessiveness. Friendship is what you really need at your age; the committed love that leads to marriage will follow in due time.
Dr Anthony Grugni, MD, was associated with The Teenager Today for nearly three decades in the capacity of youth counsellor.
